this morning i read about 35% of rachel hyman's liveblog-style review of my book while driving from philadelphia to baltimore
when i was around 25% complete i had the idea to liveblog a review of her review but didn't put my phone down until i saw a cop a few minutes later
rachel also thought to liveblog her review after she had started reading
here are things i remember thinking while reading the first 35% of rachel's review:
rachel writes for banango lit and at one point referred to her review as being written on 'her blog,' wasn't sure if she runs banango, i think a person named justin who has also reviewed my book runs banango
rachel was confused about my table of contents
rachel probably has a graduate degree or is working on one
rachel thought the person on the cover is maybe me, have wondered if people think it's me, it's luna miguel
rachel has seen me once on ustream, which means it was one of two times i've used ustream. if rachel saw me the first time, i was wearing a pink blazer/white blouse/black skirt, looking 'pretty good i guess.' if it was the second time, i was wearing a black blazer/pink blouse/black shorts, looking '10-20 pounds heavier,' due to a camera angle and being 13 pounds heavier
after reading how much i ate in a day, rachel felt like she ate a lot of food. the amount of food i listed in that entry seemed sparse and unhealthy. think i was mostly eating odwalla food bars and nibbling on things dipped in hummus at that point in my life
rachel said 'canon' in the same sentence as 'muumuu house'
rachel wondered if we've lived near each other in chicago and baltimore. i wonder that too. i have lived at these addresses in chicago:
910 w belden ave
1427 e 60th st
2345 n sheffield ave
2347 n kenmore ave
and these addresses in baltimore:
somewhere on the 1400-1500 block of park ave
3100 st paul st
327 birkwood pl
6 e read st
4404 keswick rd
rachel wanted me to expand on some things in 'everyone i've had sex with' and...something else...i'll do that in a few lines
in the parking lot of a grocery store i looked up 'rachel hyman' on facebook and saw we aren't friends but have something like 35 mutual friends
rachel is smiling in her picture and i think wearing a red shirt
people probably ask rachel to spell her last name for similar reasons they ask me to spell my last name
since reading 35% of rachel's review i've bought groceries, napped, talked with my mom, read, looked at the internet, eaten 'vegetable kabob,' watched a richard dreyfuss movie, printed a w9 form, talked with my boyfriend on the phone
unsure if liveblogging a review of a review will interest anyone
just 'liked' rachel's review on muumuu house's facebook page
the first comment on the facebook review link is by jack fagan. he says 'megan boyle sux' and someone 'liked' his comment
rachel felt sad that alcohol was involved in a lot of my first sexual encounters because she thinks alcohol impedes mutual enthusiastic consent. i sort of agree. i've also had sober sex that wasn't enthusiastically consensual. i like that rachel said 'enthusiastic consent'
rachel wanted me to expand on this: ‘everything feels heightened with him. there is an open line of communication during sex, which feels natural and genuine.’
what made sex feel heightened with that person was mostly that we were close friends and i wasn't sure how emotionally involved he was, so i spent a lot of time guessing. there seemed to be an emotional layer during sex caused by the thoughts i'd have about him when we weren't having sex. i was more alert and able to be surprised, even though we hooked up often enough for me to also feel a certain degree of comfort. the 'open line of communication' was just directive statements and encouraging comments. i like when people tell me what they want/like during sex. sometimes we made jokes, i think
rachel said: also wish she would have expanded on some of the feelings she listed at the end after completing the list: ‘surprised at how passive i’ve been’ and ‘puzzled at why i’ve diverted to other people about my personal safety’
the thought 'what do i want right now' doesn't always occur to me while i'm having sex. i feel mostly focused on the other person. i get pleasure from doing that. i don't think i was actually surprised at my passivity. i think i was lying because i had some idea that people would judge me for behaving passively during sex, so if i pretended i was surprised maybe i'd get in people's 'good graces,' like people would read that and think 'now she will be an empowered woman because she knows she's acted like a not-empowered woman'
re personal safety: i don't remember feeling surprised at that, think i may have been lying about that too
rachel wanted to hear more of my thoughts about ‘if i was never told there was something i needed called ‘love’ would i feel like i need to have it?’
if i was never told there was something called love and i needed it, i think i would still feel attracted to people and a desire to be connected to them, but probably less intensely than i do now. i would probably not feel pressure to stay in long-term relationships when they start becoming difficult. the statement 'i like you as a friend and i like having sex with you but i don't want to be committed to you' would not be relevant, ever. i might be happier and have a lot of vague relationships, but i wouldn't label them as 'vague relationships,' i would just be happy to be close to a person for an amount of time. i try to think of things in this way now, though it doesn't feel completely natural. i'm sensitive and romantic and like the security of monogamy. i like feeling like the most important person in the life of the person who's most important to me
rachel likes pizza
my mom has half of an amy's frozen pizza in her fridge
i have eaten probably 85% more pizza in march 2012 than i did in march 2011, but maybe only 15% more than i did in april 2009, when i wrote the entry that made rachel want to say she liked pizza
rachel has finished her summary and is now moving on to the liveblog portion of her review, which is also what i'm doing now
rachel says: 'haha...yeah...don't know if that's the story of my life or anything but that sure is a terrible feeling'
don't think i've read a review featuring 'haha...yeah...'
i like that
feel like i'm getting a sense of 'rachel'
now that this is the liveblog portion of rachel's review i feel more interested
this review could have a surprise ending
rachel says it would suck to feel embarrassment/shame at age 5, when i said i did in my book. reading that made me feel something complex. like a combination of surprise, hope, 'thing i feel when i exit a retirement home,' and 'thing i feel when i pet sad-looking animals'
it has just been revealed that rachel's dad is in the room
rachel didn't like it when i said 'everyone i know is processing information using an interpersonal equation based on their memories and preferences/it seems almost possible to graph that equation for each person’
rachel says 'humans are infinitely more complicated than that'
i also think humans are infinitely more complicated than that
sometimes it's scary for me to think of how little i understand about the way i function
for instance, i just recognize letters
what the hell is making me recognize the letter 'p' every time
where is the storage unit in my brain where are all my memories of what words and sounds are
there is something comforting to me about the idea that humans can be seen as simple, graphable things, but if that's all we were i probably never would've had the thought 'i want to graph an emotion'
rachel says something i agree with a lot: on: the cataloguing of minutiae that characterizes this book and much of alt lit
feel like i’ve heard people say ‘that’s lazy’ ‘it takes no talent’ ‘i could do that myself’
i don’t like the idea that art’s value is correlated to how much work went into it
that just seems pretty wrong
forming more of an idea of 'rachel' after reading 'that just seems pretty wrong.' maybe that's a phrase she uses in person, so much that she's known for saying it. maybe she says it in affectedly thoughtful voices at funny times when you wouldn't expect it, like after someone says 'i bought this t-shirt yesterday'
cataloging of minutiae...
nicholson baker...writes cool stuff about minutiae...
yesterday my boyfriend said: 'i could be close to [person] if i saw them once a week, but probably not every day, because [person] isn't someone i can talk about minutiae with'
minutiae is exciting to me
seems like everything is minutiae
wonder what rachel would say separates minutiae from [opposite of minutiae], like, how does a 'significant life event' not have properties of minutiae? when do we stop thinking of something as minutiae and call it something else? i wonder this...in general...curious about what a lot of people would say to that
rachel feels as though her parents buy significantly less snacks/food now since, i'm assuming, rachel and maybe her siblings no longer live at home
my parents live in different places now and buy less food
my mom cooks more often now than when i was growing up
my dad eats a lot of snack cakes and unhealthy smoothies
i just ate some bites of potato salad while standing in front of the fridge, remembering the scene in 'e.t.' where e.t. stands in front of the fridge, eats potato salad with his two fingers, throws it on the floor, drinks a 6-pack, spills milk everywhere
that scene seems seminal in my development as a human...somehow...
it is now 3:09AM
going to sleep
will i post this, i wonder
now it's 1:48PM
dreamed i peed out a baby and my job was to swim around the perimeter of a dock where there was very clear water and a giant black horse running under the water
mom just said 'meggie i'm fixing eggs, do you want some eggs? toast?'
it's been a long time since i've finished something i've started
rachel gives details about where she is when she's writing her review. i like that. i've also worked on things on my laptop while the sun is very bright and wondered about how that impacts what i'm writing
the sky is very grey in baltimore today
rachel says 'will keep you guys updated re: my position w/r/t sun'...lol
rachel relates to my description of my family dynamics and wonders if they are supportive of my writing. they seem very supportive, to me
rachel lives on a golf course
rachel lives near a golf course, i mean
picturing rachel's neighborhood as mostly mansions, lots of trees, flat land, senior citizens driving around in golf carts, and this going on for miles...like it's a labyrinth of mansions and golf carts and it's very easy to get lost on the way to the highway
there is probably a bike path that people in golf carts mistake for 'golf cart path'
rachel related to me expressing anxiety about the internet
have been thinking about adding rachel on facebook, but felt like i should at least message her about her review before that, or finish writing this
i am very neurotic about doing things in a certain order on the internet
sometimes rachel says she is changing the subject but sometimes the subject changes naturally. rachel wonders if what she's doing is obnoxious and irrelevant, then says the word 'petulant,' which i read in 'children of dune' twice yesterday but don't remember ever reading before that, though i'm sure i've read it because i know what it means
i think what rachel is doing is interesting and motivated me to do something too. i like how rachel structured her review. i'd like it if more reviews were casual and personal. i'd get excited to read reviews in the new york times if they were written like rachel's review
tao lin sent rachel a photo of a drawing of a banana ("banana jumping into swimming pool with ‘bored’/’vaguely distracted’ facial expression”) with my book
happy tao has sent people 'goodies'
rachel adds the phrases 'i, also' and 'glad that' to my 'personal lexicon of short phrases that facilitate clearer, faster communication' ('seems like,' 'feels like,' 'i think,' others)
the first thing rachel's dad always asks her on the phone is 'is everything alright?'
times when i ask someone if they're alright: when they fall down, if they're expressing having a bad time on drugs, when it seems like they want to be asked that and will resent me for not asking that (**don't like these people**), when it's clear the person isn't alright and doesn't want to talk about it but i feel sensitive/insecure/alone (**usually happens when romantic relationships become less satisfying**)
sometimes my mom asks me if i'm alright and apologizes for things that don't seem to matter
she did something like that on thanksgiving
i said 'you're ruining thanksgiving mom, i can't believe you'd put the corn in the fridge like that without telling me, how did you ever think i would find it without you telling me you moved it, you should be very sorry'
but i said it in such a way...she laughed at me, i was joking...my dad said something like 'goddamnit pam'...good memory...
rachel feels like she's liveblogging in an echo chamber
also i sometimes feel like my brain is an echo chamber and am not well-equipped to 'get out of it.' i used to 'get out of it' with writing but i haven't wanted to write lately
rachel seems to have retreated to the more interesting surroundings of her dad's phone conversation
i'm sort of doing that by writing about other things
we seem to be losing interest in our reviews but pressing onward anyway
or maybe in an 'echo chamber' nothing is more interesting than anything else
rachel says meticulously cataloging insignificant stuff results in an understanding of someone's inner world, and this is valuable to her
she closes with a detail about the thunder and 'i probably love you / goodbye'
probably will not rain in baltimore today
i just peed and the pee was really hot
like it when that happens
going to add rachel on facebook now